Shower sex is one of those things that always seems like a fantastic idea until you’re actually doing it.
On paper, it looks so tempting – you’re just combining two things which on their own are great, so why shouldn’t they be great together?
But between the slippery floor and limited space, it can go from sexy to awkward in a matter of moments.
The next time you’re tempted to give it a go, here are some top tips from sexperts on how to do shower sex right.
Sometimes giving your partner a sexy little surprise is a great idea, but maybe save the shocks for outside the shower.
As relationship expert Ness Cooper, who partnered with Lovehoney to give us her advice, says: ‘You don’t want a slippery accident to happen.
‘While it’s a nice pleasant surprise for a partner to join in during a shower, due to the noise, steam, and compact area it can be a bit of a shock to those not expecting it.’
Before you or your partner rest your weight on anything in the shower, you’ll want to give it a quick stability check – again, you don’t want to have a fall.
‘There are some suction devices designed to withstand body weight whilst in the shower,’ says Ness.
‘Some sex toy shops stock these, but if not, don’t be shy to explore the mobility section in general stores, as footrests and similar can add new ways to explore positions.’
You might think that water is lube enough, but using a proper lubricant can actually work wonders.
Ness says: ‘Water can make the vagina feel dry and some people may find shower sex more enjoyable with silicone lube.’
‘Use a waterproof and/or a silicone lubricant which won’t wash away,’ recommends Kate Moyle, Lelo’s sex and relationship expert.
‘But be aware it is designed to be slippery – so be careful if you spill it on the floor or shower tiles.’
You’ll have touch covered, but the shower’s a great place to use some sexy scents.
Ness recommends a shower melt or even a simple body wash.
‘Experiment with temperature,’ she adds, ‘from cold to warm, but make sure the water doesn’t get too hot as you don’t want to scald intimate areas.’
This goes for places other than the shower too – sometimes sex just doesn’t go smoothly and that’s OK. The important thing is to switch it up and try not to take it too seriously.
‘Shower sex isn’t like it always is on screen,’ says Kate. ‘It can take a bit more navigating, especially if you have a big height difference.
‘There are ways that you might have to navigate the shower space, like propping yourself up against a wall or for you to be sitting, and inevitably someone always gets a face full of water at an inconvenient moment.
‘Keep telling each other what’s working for you and don’t be afraid to laugh it off and change it up if you need to rather than struggling on.’
Having sex standing up can present a logistical challenge at the best of times, but Ness has a few shower-friendly position suggestions.
‘Spooning your partner from behind whilst standing can give access to g-spot penetration or anal sex – some couples may prefer to engage in anal in the shower due to easy clean-up,’ she recommends.
‘This position also allows hands to wander over the partner being spooned and adds to the sensuality.’
Ness also suggests standing doggy, adding: ‘Using the shower head to stimulate the clitoris at the same time can lead to a more intense orgasm.’
Don’t forget that penetrative sex and/or an orgasm doesn’t always have to be the main goal.
Yes, they are great, but you can always, erm, finish what you’ve started later in the bedroom.
There are also plenty of other ways to be physically intimate in the shower.
Kate says: ‘You can use things like the shower head to stimulate and tease each other, or washing each other’s bodies head to toe teasing and building up sensation.’
Ness also points out that you can get sex toys specially designed to be attached to the showerhead.
And if you want to soap each other up, she says: ‘Make sure all soap products stay outside the body as some people find soaps upset their vagina and can cause irritation and even thrush.’
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